The Devil Is In The Details

Venue? Check!

Dress? Check!

Bridesmaids? Check!

Reception Catering? Check!

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Okay, so you’ve sorted all the big things for your wedding. These are the things that you can not do without at all – if you don’t get these sorted, there will be no wedding day! As these are such huge things that need planning, there is no way that you are going to forget them.

But what about the details that are fairly small and easily forgettable. Sure, forgetting them won’t ruin your entire wedding day, but it might not feel quite as extra special. As the famous saying goes, the devil is in the details, and that is entirely true when it comes to weddings. Here are some small details that will make a big difference on the day.

Wedding Flowers

Ok, so you might not forget about your bouquet entirely, but you could stand a chance of leaving it until the last minute and rushing your decision. This is a bad idea! Ideally, you need to remember to speak to a florist in plenty of time so that you can discuss your perfect flower choices. For instance, you might want to pick a type of flower that holds a special meaning to you, and the florist will then be able to tell you which other flowers will work well with it in a bouquet. If you leave it till the last minute, you might just have to go with a random flower arrangement!

Favors

Wedding favors are very small gifts that the bride and groom leave at each guest’s place setting at the reception. These are a really nice touch, and your guests will love opening theirs to see what is in them. Usually, couples give small tokens to thank the guests for their attendance. You could wrap up some homemade truffles or candied almonds, for example.

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Transport

Do you know how your guests will get home or back to their accommodation once the day is over? If you are getting married in a town or city, they will be able to get cabs. But if you are getting married in a rural location, transport could prove tricky. Not everyone will be able to drive as they will have been drinking. For this reason, it’s a good idea to organize transport, such as booking a minibus, so that your guests aren’t worried about getting to and from your wedding.

Safe Space For Gifts

Each guest will bring a wedding gift for you; these are normally given to you just before the reception. You won’t be able to carry these around with you all the time, so you need to plan a safe space where you can store the gifts. If you have booked a reception venue, ask the owners if they can keep them somewhere for you. If not, set a table to one side where guests can place their gifts. You can then gather them all up at the end of the day.

Have a great wedding day!

Spending Your Wedding Money Wisely

If you are planning on getting married, then you hopefully have a decent budget to work with. One of the hardest decisions of all regarding any wedding day is in relation to your budget. You need to know where you are going to spend it -how much on each part, and so on. If you get this right, it really bodes well for the day itself, so this is a hugely important issue. In this article, we are going to look at some of the major expenses that you will need to consider above all else. As long as you make allowances for these first and foremost, you should be fine.

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Invitations

The invitations are much more important than people usually give them credit for. In many ways, a decent invitation offers your guests a great opportunity to get a gist of what the day itself will be like. With an invitation, you will have the chance to introduce important elements such as the colour theme for the day, and other things of that nature. It is important that you keep budget aside for the invitations; people often forget about them until the last minute, and then it is often a shock to see just how much money they can cost. Prepare yourself, and get them sorted as early as possible. This will reduce the amount of shock associated with the cost of your invitations, and will ensure that everyone receives their invites on time.

Furniture

For the actual day, let’s not forget that you will need to stock up the room with the desired furniture and decorations. This is going to be one of the most important aspects of all, as generally this is how you achieve the overall look that you are actually going for. Whatever your style or theme, this is one area where you will want to set aside a lot of the budget – just to make sure you get it right. It is also worth shopping around and finding places like La Pinata Party Rentals if you want to save a little cash. Done right, you will be able to fill out your function room with style, and without breaking your budget.

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Dress

It probably goes without saying, but something you will definitely want to save money on is your dress. The dress is often one of the most expensive elements of all, so it makes perfect sense to save up for it for as long as you can. It will probably also be one of the first purchases that you make, so you will want to ensure that you keep it within the realms of the budget. Sometimes, it can be tempting to go over slightly on this, but you should try to avoid this temptation if at all possible. As long as you stay under, you will have a much less stressful time of it on the whole. And reducing stress should definitely be one of your main goals here.

Boho Wedding Chic

There has been a dominant trend lately, moving away from the big old formal style weddings to a more relaxed bohemian, country vibe instead. In fact, it’s a pretty easy wedding style to pull off, whether you have a load of money or are working on a stricter budget. Read on for some tips and inspiration.

Venue

Getting a suitable location for a boho wedding can make a big difference to how effective it is. Some particularly great locations and venues for this relaxed hippy style include outdoor weddings. Which are obviously much better in warmer climates. Or tents and tepees which add a sort of festival vibe to proceedings.

As things are a little more relaxed, you can dispense with the formal seating plans and go for some less structured options. Which can work particularly well with a buffet or hog roast meal.

Dress

Now, your wedding dress has a lot to do with setting the tone for your day. So you are going to want to get this element just right. But how does boho translate into wedding dress styles? Well, there are several ways that you can do it successfully.

The first is by using lace, this can give a very romantic and bohemian vibe. Especially if worn in the style of a fitted dress.

But simplicity can also work just as well. Think flowing fabrics that drop to the floor, but without the bulk of any petticoats.

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Remember too that the success of the effect can have to do with how you dress the outfit. So consider accessorizing your dress with fresh wildflower crowns, tousled ringleted hair, or even bare feet? As these can all enhance the boho feel of your look too.

Groom

Now you will want the groom and groomsmen to be in keeping with your theme as well. But what exactly should the fellas wear to fit in with a boho theme? Well, some of the best outfits I have seen have a vintage, rural vibe to them. Think country style in brown tones with suspenders.

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Remember, you want something that looks like they have made an effort. But is far removed from the tails and cummerbunds of a very formal affair.

Quirky touches

Now, with a boho wedding, something that you can really get your teeth stuck into is creating some truly quirky touches to make your day as fun and personalized as possible.

For example, try making dream catcher decorations yourself from old lace doilies fixed to embroidery hoops, with ribbons hanging from them.

Or how about giving your guests some serious pampering by putting together a paper gift bag of items for them to use on the day as it suggests in this article? You can even fill with things like flip flops so the women can change out of their high shoes for dancing. Or wraps to keep them warm in the evening. As well as fun stuff for boho theme picture like sparklers!

Entertainment

You will want some epic entertainment to get everyone on their feet and dancing that is also in keeping with the boho theme. So what about hiring a live band to give it that art-house sort of vibe? Or you could even include some cool carnival games for the guests to play, to keep everyone amused.

A Little Inspiration For Your Big Day

Ah Weddings! A wonderful thing, committing to spend the rest of your life with one person.  A day to share your love with your family and friends, or perhaps not.  There are loads of different ways to get married and not all of them need to cost you the earth.  We’ve pulled together three different weddings shared by three very different couples that will hopefully inspire you when choosing your special day.

The Slight Hitch

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Chris lived in Kabul, Afghanistan for 8 months of the year.  Whilst Nancy was based in the south of England.  The pair knew that they would need to plan their wedding around his breaks from Afghanistan.  Except Chris had a pretty epic idea for his stag do.  He wanted to ride home to the UK from Kabul on his motorbike. The only issue was the trip was going to be unpredictable when it came to timing.  So the two decided not to tell anyone else what they were up to and to head to Gretna Green where they could be more flexible with dates.  Chris made the 4000 mile journey on his motorbike for the charity Mission Motorsport.  He was delayed by 2 weeks at the Caspian Sea and arrived in Dover 24 hours before they were due to get married.  They jumped in a car and raced to Scotland.  Got married.  He returned to Kabul 3 days later.  The couple said the wedding cost them the grand total of £600 (£300 being the Christian Louboutin shoes Nancy bought to go with a £40 dress) and Chris raised £40,000 for the charity.  

 

The Home Stayers

Tom and Aisha both had a love for family and decided straight away that their family home was the perfect place to hold a very boho wedding.  The whole event was staged in their garden with Aisha wearing a vintage wedding dress which was the inspiration used when designing Caroline Bramley.  The guests sat on hay bales and the bride rode her beautiful white horse bareback down the aisle.  All food was produced from their own customised vintage catering van.  The couple said they spent less than £1000 on the whole wedding which was less than half what they spent on a month long honeymoon!

 

The Modern Couple

 

Ned and Pauline were based in Calgary, Canada.  They knew that a lot of members of their family wouldn’t be able to travel from Europe to share in their special day.  So instead of having guests, they nipped off on their work lunch break, to a stunning waterfall in the Rockies and set up a live feed for all their relatives at home.  It was winter and Pauline wore a dress borrowed from her mother whilst Ned opted for jeans and a shirt.  Both the bride and groom went back to work and spent their first night as a married couple at home doing exactly what they would normally do on a wednesday night.  The wedding cost them $300 and they both said it was the best $300 they have ever spent.  

 

Make your wedding completely unique for the two of you.  Because it is your love that matters.  That should come first.  

More Than A Disco: Wedding Entertainment Ideas With A Twist

If there’s one form of guaranteed entertainment at a wedding, it’s music and dancing. After all, what’s a celebration without music? However, if you want to knock it out of the park when it comes to how enjoyable and memorable your big day is, a disco (or a live band) shouldn’t be the only entertainment that you have on offer.

 

Your wedding day entertainment should blow your guests away; it shouldn’t give them the same memories that every other wedding they’ve ever been to has. You want to be as unique as possible when it comes to the entertainment that you offer, to ensure that your wedding really is a show stopper.

 

So, with that in mind, below are some truly unique wedding entertainment ideas that are guaranteed to make your guests’ day.

 

Incorporate games

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A great way to ensure that everyone enjoys your big day and has a laugh with you is to incorporate an array of games that everyone can get involved in. We’re not talking board games – although giant versions of these can also work well, more like garden games, such as boules, ring tossing, and playing cornhole. The great thing about these types of games is that you can opt to personalize them to fit your wedding theme and style. For example, you could order specially designed wraps for your cornhole board from a specialist site like www.LetsPlayCornhole.com/cornhole-wraps/, to personalize the boards to fit your big day perfectly. Or, for instance, you could opt to create a ring toss that links to your wedding in some way or another – perhaps you could have one ring toss pole with a bride on and the other with a groom on? Get creative and have some fun, and you can make sure that your big day is as fun and memorable as possible.

 

Bring out your inner child

 

Weddings are all about having fun, so why not bring out your inner child and celebrate your nuptials in style? To make your big day even more enjoyable for everyone in attendance, find ways to bring out your inner child and have some fun. One way to do that is to hire a bouncy castle for you and your guests to bounce on. Believe it or not, there are plenty of bouncy castle hire companies that offer adult bouncy castle hire, perfect for weddings (and other events). Just make sure that if there are any kids in attendance, that before any adults get on, the kids get off. Or, if you’re holding your wedding somewhere with plenty of outdoor space, why not hire a giant slide for everyone to have a go on? Or, what about booking swing boats? If you want to ensure that your big day is remembered for all the right reasons, getting creative with your entertainment is a must.

 

Make capturing memories fun

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A big part of any wedding is making memories, which is why it’s so important to ensure that you get creative when it comes to capturing memories. Yes, having a wedding photographer is a must, but that’s not all you need. As well as natural-looking photographs and group shots captured by the photographer, you also want to ensure that there are some more fun and quirky photos taken. To do this, hiring a photo booth is a great option, especially as if you ensure that there’s a bucket of props on offer too, having a photo booth can be a whole lot of fun. Another option is to have a life-sized photo board of you and the groom created with cut-outs where your faces should be, for your guests to stand in and snap photos. Or, how about hiring a caricature to come and draw pictures of your guests – these could make great wedding favors.  

 

A wheel of truth or dare

 

Truth or dare is a lot of fun, especially when you’ve had a few drinks, so why not incorporate it into your wedding with a wheel of fun? If you or the groom are handy with woodwork, perhaps you could make your own DIY wheel, if not, you could always opt to have one custom-made via an online site. Either way, having a wheel of fun with a combination of truth questions or dares, can be a lot of fun. Aim to personalize the things on the wheel, to make the game more fun. For example, perhaps you could have dates like ‘tap cousin Lisa on the head and run – don’t let her see you’ or truths like ‘who is your favorite uncle?’. Get creative and see what you can come up with. The more creative you can make the wheel, the more fun you will have. For more ideas, resources like www.moncheribridals.com/wedding-ideas/ can be useful.

 

Sports day activities

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Another great way to ensure that your big day is enjoyable for everyone in attendance is to plan an array of sport’s activities for everyone to get involved in. Think sack races, egg and spoon races,  relay races – get creative and come up with a range of ideas that anyone who wants to, can get involved in. Perhaps you could even give out little medals and trophies for the winners to up the ante a little? For ideas of ways that you could personalize the sports activities that you have picked, have a browse online – sites like Pinterest should have plenty of ideas that you could try, so it’s more than worth taking the time to have a browse.

 

Yes, every wedding needs a disco (or a live band) – what’s a wedding without dancing? But that’s not the only entertainment that you should offer – get creative and come up with some unique ways to keep everyone entertained throughout the day and into the evening. Hopefully, the ideas and suggestions above will help you to do that, but if you’re still a little stuck, there’s sure to be plenty of ideas online, it’s just a case of finding the ones that are a good fit for your big day, that’s all.

Wedding Favor Favorites

In some ways, the now-established tradition of giving favors to those who attend your nuptials is quite strange. After all, you just bought your bridesmaids, groomsmen and all your guests dinner and drinks. You provided entertainment and sought to ensure they were happy and comfortable… and now you give them a gift at the end of the night? Nice!

 

Of course, it’s all a part of the day. We all want to send our guests off home with a smile on their face and, most importantly, a memento of the day. We open up our marriages to share them with others; it’s no surprise we want that memory to last in the form of favors.

 

When it comes to choosing the favors for your own wedding, you have several options. As ever, some of the decision-making process comes down to budget – but we’re not going to tangle with that. Instead, let’s examine the concepts behind the areas you can source your favors from. That way, regardless of your budget, you can find a concept that suits you and spend whatever you see fit within the confines of it.

 

Concept One: Traditional

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Traditional wedding favors with be sugared almonds or foil-wrapped chocolate. Something small and delicate that can sit prettily on the table during the meal then subsequently dropped into a handbag as guests leave. It’s the perfect option if you’re otherwise sticking with tradition.

 

Concept Two: Comedic

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Not all weddings have to be serious and focused on true love and nothing but. If you’re a couple with a sense of humor, then it makes sense to incorporate that into your favors. Silly posed photos in frames, novelty gadgets, and custom bobbleheads all give a sense of whimsy to your favors while still achieving their main goal.

 

Concept Three: Cheerfully Inexpensive

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Note ‘inexpensive’ rather than ‘cheap.’ Disposable items make for great wedding favors, such as paper fans or small bags of nostalgic candy. You can keep it simple and still make an impact. You’re trying to make people smile, not provide them with a favor worthy of being an heirloom they pass through the family for years to come!

 

Concept Four: Digital

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Our lives are lived online in the 21st century, so why not harness that for your favors? You can still provide guests with a physical piece of card, on which you can print a QR code. When scanned, this could link to a website where you plan to post pictures and memories of the wedding day itself. You could also link to a specific playlist that you’ve set up of songs that were going to be at the wedding or a YouTube dedicated channel for people to upload their own footage. It might not be a favor in the conventional sense, but it will keep the excitement going even as you head off on honeymoon.

 

Concept Five: Personalized

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If you have a small guest list, then it might be viable for you to look to personalize gifts. Wine bottles, magnets, and pens are common choices – all embossed with the names of the guests and perhaps your wedding date. At least they won’t have an excuse for forgetting your anniversary, anyway!

Creating A Wedding Day That Your Guests Will Remember Forever

It seems that often, there are two types of people when it comes to weddings. There are those couples who want a private, intimate affair – sometimes the kind of ceremony when only the immediate family are in attendance, or maybe no actual guests at all. Then, there are those couples who long for a big, flashy wedding, with lots of friends and family around to see them say the words ‘I do’. If you fall into the latter category, you probably see your wedding as just as much about your loved ones as you do about your partner. After all, it’s a chance for everyone to come together and enjoy a great big party, and the opportunity to catch up with people they maybe haven’t seen for a while. But a large majority of your guests will probably have been to many weddings before yours – so what can you do to make your big day stand out among your guests?

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Have a theme

Okay, so themed weddings either make you jump for joy or make you cringe until you can cringe no more. But whatever camp you sit in, there is always a way to tie a theme into your wedding day in a way that suits you. It is a great way to grab your guest’s attention and from the outset you know it will be a wedding to remember. You can go as full on or as subtle as you like depending on your own personal tastes. For example, if you are a huge lover of Disney but don’t want your wedding day to be taken over by princesses, fairies and flying elephants, you can inject your theme in a more muted manner. This could be by wearing some Disney inspired jewelry, or even naming your tables after famous films.

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Deliver the goods when it comes to the food

Wedding catering is notorious for being typically poor – but many highbrow companies have seen this gap in the market and have seized it with both hands. Browse the market to find reputable  catering services for events and weddings that may be able to help you feed the masses on your big day. Weddings are very long days in themselves, especially for your guests that attend both the ceremony and the reception – so make sure you have some good food and drink on offer to help replenish them!

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An amazing venue

They say it’s not about where you are, it’s who you’re with. While this is certainly true for many occasions, on your wedding day, it’s only natural to want to have a great venue at your disposal. Obviously, most people are limited in where exactly they can pick for their wedding as location is usually the prime factor. But, as venues are typically the most expensive part of the wedding package, you need to make sure you get it right. Stately homes and castles are pricey but provide a stunning backdrop to your special day – or why not go quirky by getting married on a boat or outdoors?

Design Your Own Wedding Ring with These Top Tips

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Your wedding ring is important. It is a symbol of the love and commitment you and your husband have for each other. You love is unique, and your wedding ring should be too. More couples than ever before are choosing to create their own wedding rings, rather than simply picking out something generic, which could be seen on the fingers of countless couples, from the store.

 

If you like the idea of designing your own custom wedding ring, but you don’t know where to start, take a look at these top tips for creating your own ring:

 

Keep Calm

 

The most important thing to remember when designing your own wedding ring is to keep calm. So many brides add to their already ample stress levels by worrying about their ability to create an attractive ring, but what they forget is that there are professionals who will help them create the ring – they are not alone in the process and neither will you be!

 

Seek Inspiration

 

If you do not come from a design background, then it stands to reason that you won’t be able to pluck a beautiful ring design out of thin air. You will need to look for inspiration. Luckily, inspiration is everywhere. It can be found in the shapes of nature, the jewellery of famous designers and on websites like Pinterest, which aggregates thousands of design pictures for you to peruse at your leisure or https://antwerpdiamonds.direct/ where you can find fabulous lose diamonds to use in your wedding ring designs.

 

Try Rings for Size

 

Just because you are planning to design your own wedding band, does not mean that you can’t try a whole bunch on. Looking at pictures and inspiration boards will only get you so far, you need to try the ring on for style to see if you really truly love a particular design, whether that be retro or minimalist, to see if you really love it.

 

Find a Designer

 

Finding a bespoke wedding ring designer who you click with and who listens to your ideas is a vital part of the process. Unfortunately, you will not get on with every ring designer, and some will specialise in certain styles that you are not interested in, so you need to do your homework and check out the portfolios of multiple designers before you settle on the one for you.

 

Check the Small Print

 

When you do find the right designer for you, it is imperative that you check the small print on any contract before you sign it because many designers will require various amounts of money at various times, whether in the form of deposits or final payments. Once you start the process, it is almost impossible to back out without losing money, so you need to be absolutely certain of what you are doing.

 

Cost

 

Another thing you will want to consider before designing your own wedding ring is the cost of doing so. When you’re creating your own design, costs can quickly spiral out of control, so you would do well to let your designer know that you have a firm budget in mind, which cannot under any circumstances be exceeded if you want to stick to your wedding budget.

 

Forget Trends

 

There is nothing wrong with being interested in the latest trends, but when it comes to wedding rings, do you really want to be a slave to them? After all, your wedding ring is going to be on your finger for the rest of your life, so choosing something which is classic, but which also speaks to your individual style is a much better idea than choosing a piece which is currently in fashion, but may not be quite so pleasing as you grow older.

 

Let Your Freak Flag Fly

 

That being said, there is absolutely nothing wrong with using a design that most people would find strange, but which has personal meaning to you. For example, if you and your hubby to be have a special song, don’t be afraid to engrave the lyrics onto your ring. Some people have been known to have their favourite film quotes, scientific formulas and even Klingon messages on their wedding rings!

 

Bone Up on Stones

 

Whether you’re opting for a classic diamond or another stone, it is important that you are able to recognise the quality of stones. Stones can differ immensely in price depending on their condition, colour and appearance, with a very clear diamond costing several times as much as one with even a slight impurity, but as long as you know your stones, you will not be in danger of getting ripped off.

 

While we’re talking about stones, don’t be afraid to choose something a bit different, if you adore opals or have a passion for sapphires, don’t shy away from including them in your design just because it’s not traditional.

 

Study Metals

 

Of course, your wedding ring is likely to be made up of more metal than stone, which is why you should also get to know your precious metals. Sometimes, metals can cost more not because they look better or are more precious, but because they are heavier, and knowing this, for example, can help you to save money in the best possible way.

 

Plan Well in Advance

 

When you are having anything custom designed, you need to leave plenty of time before the date it is needed, not only because creating a ring from scratch takes time, but also because things can and do go wrong, and there so no guarantee that a ring will be ready on the day you need it. So, aim to leave at least eight weeks between your first design appointment and your wedding day, but ideally, you should be looking to have your ring created as soon as you start planning the wedding seriously to avoid any hiccups.
If you take note of these tips, put in some time to understanding the design process and the logistics of wedding rings, and you pour your heart and soul into creating something you will treasure forever, there is no way that you will ever be disappointed by your wedding ring.

It’s In The Details: Your Wedding Checklist

The one thing that trips up most brides is the details. You can gather your bridesmaids and groomsmen together to help you plan a wedding day but every single bride in the world will always panic that she has forgotten one of the details of her wedding day. It’s like that dream where you’re standing naked in front of everyone you know; you don’t want it to happen and it’s embarrassing if it does!

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Forgetting wedding details doesn’t have to be a huge deal as long as the detail you forget isn’t one of the big ones. For most, being organised is key and the biggest day of your life should be meticulously planned. If you are able to you should absolutely hire a wedding planning service that can be on hand to help you out and make sure you stay calm. Otherwise, get a notepad and pen, you have a list to write!

  1. Outfits: Quite an obvious one but you should be very clear to your groom about colours and styles you want on your wedding day. While you’re thinking of your wedding dress, you need to remember your wedding night lingerie, your shoes and a bag to hold your phone and other bits in. it’s not always all about the dress – the details count!
  2. Venue: Planning your venue is fun but remember to check exactly what comes in the package you get for your chosen place. You want to make sure you’re getting good value for your money so find out whether costs include table and chair covers, the cake knife and stand and a DJ. These details may sound trivial but when it comes to your wedding day, you cannot forget these!
  3. Food: Have you checked whether any of your guests are vegetarian? Sometimes, trying to cater for different tastes and diets is a little too hard but if you’ve ordered finger food catering from Diamond Blue Catering or other such companies, you would be able to order a variety of food that is set for every taste.
  4. Invitations: While you may have remembered the invites, have you included absolutely everything in them? Have you given your technologically-challenged guests a phone number or postal address to respond to in case email isn’t their thing? Have you included the time of the service if you are having a church ceremony? The smallest details can really throw off your guests and if you are choosing to get married in an obscure location, make sure you spend time making up maps to send to each guest.
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The smallest details can really derail a wedding but as long as you’ve made lists, mind maps and you’ve asked, asked and asked again, you should hopefully have every detail fulfilled far enough in advance that you can fix any last-minute mistakes with the minimum of stress. Getting hitched should go off without a hitch and you should know how every second should go. Go and get married; you’re ready!

Preventing The Lesser-Known (But Still Terrifying) Threat of the Bridemaidzilla

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Your wedding should be, in theory, the happiest day of your life. Well, at least one of the top five. There are the days your kids are born, if you have them. There is your first paycheck. And then there’s the day you realize you paid the store clerk with a single and they gave you change for a ten. Those are all pretty sweet, also.

But I digress. It should be the happiest day of your life, but the thing about a wedding is this. Although it has two leading characters, there is a sizeable supporting cast. While the two of you may give virtuoso performances, there’s always the risk of some scene-stealing further down the card.

It may be for the best of reasons – a giggling fit during the vows, a funny best man speech or the priest catching the bouquet. It may also be because of a spectacular tantrum pulling focus from the happy couple. How do you avoid the lesser-known wedding day disaster – the Bridesmaidzilla?

Picking Your Bridesmaids

As noted before, you do need to be decisive when picking bridesmaids for a wedding. It’s the bridesmaid’s choice in the end, and you have to pick who you’re happy with. That said, if there is a chance of one bridesmaid being miserable because her sister couldn’t be one, think. Does it make a huge difference to have five instead of four?

Picking The Dresses

Outside of the shallower Hollywood rom-coms, you rarely get a group of four friends who are identical in shape and size. Picking the right dresses for your crew, then, can be a tense process. You may have three who are delighted with the cut and the color. There may then be one who looks at what you’ve bought and says “Oh, they’ll look great! I will look like I’ve dressed up for Hallowe’en!”

That’s why sites like alanavivi.com are so useful. You can decide on a color theme, but allow each bridesmaid to choose their cut and style. No need to play the percentages, everyone can look drop dead gorgeous. Just a bit less so than the bride, of course.

Maid Of Honor/Head Bridesmaid Fiascoes

The bridesmaids at any wedding should usually be the best friends of the bride herself. The best, best friend will be the head bridesmaid or maid of honor. However, do you know who your best friend is? Do they? And more to the point, do those who are not your best, best friend know that? This is something that requires clarity early on.

It may be worth making the decision that you won’t be having a maid of honor at all. Should the decision be questioned, explain that they’re all bridesmaids because they mean the world to you. Putting one of them above the others would just be too difficult emotionally on such an important day.

The one caveat to this is if you have been asked to play the part of maid of honor to one of your own party. In that case not returning the favor would look like a snub – and guess where that leads?

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