Sensational Ways To Include Your Mother At Your Wedding

Brides generally come with an entourage of people in the lead up to the big day. Whether you are newly engaged, in the middle of prepping your wedding, or on the cusp of the biggest day of your life, you have very likely got a flock of people around you at your beck and call. That’s not to say you’ve turned into a demanding Bridezilla, ripping people to shreds with a mere cut of the eye. It’s just that friends, sisters, cousins, aunts, your soon to be mother in law, your mum…all these people PLUS hairdressers and make-up artists will be hovering round you and waiting for instruction. The most important person in that entourage is your mum. She’s been there from your first breath, first steps and first words. It’s only fitting that she should be there by your side to see you take the next set of first steps in your life: as a bride.

All the attention can get a little overwhelming, so take some time to step back and look at the big picture. Look at the women in your life who have come together from two families to make your day beautiful. Think about how you can honour what they’ve done for you. Perhaps your mum has been your automatic wedding planner, helping you write lists and making plans across a calendar so the timing is prompt and efficient. Perhaps she actually paid out for an actual band of Luxury Wedding Planners to take the stress out of your hands for your day. So how can you honour your mum on your wedding day? The day may be about you, but without her you wouldn’t be standing where you are now.

  • Get traditional on the day. If there’s a necklace, piece of precious jewellery or even a tradition that your mother hopes you could do for your wedding day, honour it. Wear the jewellery with pride and make it your ‘something borrowed’.
  • Get giggling! Prepare your wedding favours together, arrange freshly cut wildflowers together, take a calligraphy class to write place cards together. Any wedding job can have a fun injection just by sitting and being together.
  • Let your photographer know that there has to be a few photos of your mum and you together without anyone else in the picture. This woman brought you into the world and taught you how to do everything you know how to do now. Cherish that in print.
  • A special gift goes a long way. An embroidered handkerchief with a poem describing your love for your mother is a keepsake gift as well as a place to capture the tears.

Weddings are emotional ceremonies. It’s your day and about you as the bride, but don’t forget where you came from and how you got to where you are now. Even if your relationship isn’t the best friendship in the world, you can still include and be grateful for the mother you have by your side on your wedding day.

Must-have vendors who get overlooked

We’ve spoken with a lot of brides over the years, and many tell us they’re cutting costs on three essential vendors.  Here’s why a professional photographer, hair and makeup stylist, and wedding planner are must-haves for a stress-free wedding day:

1. A professional photographer

Flowers crumble and cake dries, but wedding photos last a lifetime.  They’re the images your kids will flip through, and the pictures you’ll display on your 50th wedding anniversary.  This is one vendor you don’t want to scrimp on.

We emphasize professional photographer.  You may have a family member or friend who’s an aspiring photographer.  While you could hire him for free or almost nothing, you’re taking a huge risk.  Uncontracted photographers are not liable if your photos are poor quality or lost.  Your wedding day memories can easily turn into a nightmare.  Don’t risk a friendship in order to save a few bucks.  Make the sacrifice with the money and pay for a professional photographer who fits your personality and style.  Ensure that your memories are preserved forever with a photographer you can count on to deliver.

2. Hair and makeup stylists

The number one reason to get your hair and makeup professionally done?  Less stress.  Don’t let a bad hair day or messy makeup ruin your morning.  Hair and makeup is a way to pamper yourself before the wedding.  While you might be able to do your own day-to-day makeup, professionals know how to make it last from the first kiss to the last dance.  Plus your skin will be flawless in the photos.  Don’t look back at the pictures (taken by your professional photographer) and regret that you didn’t look your best.

If you’re going to splurge on one thing for your wedding, make it hair and makeup.  Take money from an unnecessary expense in your budget.  It’ll be well worth it.

3. Wedding planner

Whether she’s with you in the early planning stages or just on your wedding day, a wedding planner handles all the little details that easily get overlooked.  She’s organized hundreds of weddings, while you’ll only have one.  On the day of your wedding, you don’t want to worry about whether the caterer is on time or the décor is right.  A wedding planner ensures your day is stress free, coordinating all the wedding vendors for you.

As a working woman, you already have a busy life.  A wedding planner works with your schedule to ensure every aspect of your wedding day is perfect.  Let your wedding planning be a worry-free experience so you can focus on yourself and your upcoming marriage.  Wedding coordinators will help make your dream wedding a reality.

Photo by Braedon Photography.

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