The Devil Is In The Details

Venue? Check!

Dress? Check!

Bridesmaids? Check!

Reception Catering? Check!

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Okay, so you’ve sorted all the big things for your wedding. These are the things that you can not do without at all – if you don’t get these sorted, there will be no wedding day! As these are such huge things that need planning, there is no way that you are going to forget them.

But what about the details that are fairly small and easily forgettable. Sure, forgetting them won’t ruin your entire wedding day, but it might not feel quite as extra special. As the famous saying goes, the devil is in the details, and that is entirely true when it comes to weddings. Here are some small details that will make a big difference on the day.

Wedding Flowers

Ok, so you might not forget about your bouquet entirely, but you could stand a chance of leaving it until the last minute and rushing your decision. This is a bad idea! Ideally, you need to remember to speak to a florist in plenty of time so that you can discuss your perfect flower choices. For instance, you might want to pick a type of flower that holds a special meaning to you, and the florist will then be able to tell you which other flowers will work well with it in a bouquet. If you leave it till the last minute, you might just have to go with a random flower arrangement!

Favors

Wedding favors are very small gifts that the bride and groom leave at each guest’s place setting at the reception. These are a really nice touch, and your guests will love opening theirs to see what is in them. Usually, couples give small tokens to thank the guests for their attendance. You could wrap up some homemade truffles or candied almonds, for example.

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Transport

Do you know how your guests will get home or back to their accommodation once the day is over? If you are getting married in a town or city, they will be able to get cabs. But if you are getting married in a rural location, transport could prove tricky. Not everyone will be able to drive as they will have been drinking. For this reason, it’s a good idea to organize transport, such as booking a minibus, so that your guests aren’t worried about getting to and from your wedding.

Safe Space For Gifts

Each guest will bring a wedding gift for you; these are normally given to you just before the reception. You won’t be able to carry these around with you all the time, so you need to plan a safe space where you can store the gifts. If you have booked a reception venue, ask the owners if they can keep them somewhere for you. If not, set a table to one side where guests can place their gifts. You can then gather them all up at the end of the day.

Have a great wedding day!

Planning Your Wedding: What You Can Leave To The Groom

If you are preparing for your upcoming nuptials, you will know just how stressful it can be to organise a wedding. You only have a few people you trust to help you out with it – you know, people who just ‘get’ what you want your big day to be like. If you are anything like most women, that small list of people will probably include your husband to be. After all, how can you expect someone who still doesn’t use the laundry bin, to organise a wedding?! But, by getting your fiance involved you could actually save yourself a tonne of work – and help him gain a sense of accomplishment too. So what exactly can you leave to the groom, and what is it best that you stick to organising?

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The catering

You might think that is a risky thing to leave your groom to sort out. But, as long as you chat to him about it first and impose some guidelines, there’s no reason why he can’t arrange the catering for your wedding. Plus, men like food – chances are he’ll be better at organising this side of the wedding rather than the decor! Encourage him to read reviews of local companies and chefs just to ensure that there aren’t any horror stories lurking anywhere. If you both love a certain cuisine, ask him to look at companies that specialise in that certain food. Leaving your man to organise the food will free up plenty of your time, so you can focus on other aspects of your big day.

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The suits

When it comes to suits for the groom and his groomsmen, you might think you know better than them – especially if you help your partner with his clothes shopping on a regular basis. But this is one occasion where it is best if you leave it to him to sort out. The most important thing is that your groom feels comfortable and confident in what he wears on his wedding day. If you are hovering over the fitting, he may feel pressured to buy something that he thinks YOU will like instead. Plus, fittings are always supervised by an expert, who will be able to help you man choose the perfect suit. Suit fittings are also a bit of a groomsmen tradition, so it is best to let them have their boys time together!

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The bridesmaid dresses

We’ve all seen the television show ‘Don’t Tell The Bride’, where the groom organises the ENTIRE wedding; including picking the bridesmaid dresses. Even if your man is a pretty dapper guy, he’s fairly unlikely to know much about women’s clothing. It is definitely better to follow your female intuition and  choose your bridesmaid dresses with your girls in mind. You will be able to understand how they will fit and fall on a female body much more than your groom would be able to.

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The finishing touches

In many cases, it is actually better to delegate some of the ‘bigger’ tasks for the wedding to your groom. This is because typically, men pay less attention to detail than women, especially when it comes to weddings. Your groom may overlook certain things to do with your wedding that might not seem huge, but that will certainly make a difference to the day. For example, he could forget to organise any flowers for decoration, or place names for the wedding dinner. If you have a very clear idea of the individual details you want to make your wedding special, it is best to organise these yourself.

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Where To Spend, Save And Compromise On That Dream Wedding!

A wedding is about joining two people together in a bond that will last a lifetime. Yet many modern couples face something beyond their unification, with the prospect of a huge bill at the end of it. We all know that weddings are expensive, yet we still manage to be surprised when we start getting quotes.

It’s at this point that the more frugal among us begin to worry. A wedding is a spectacular, wonderful occasion – but it is just one day in our lives. All being well, it’s something we’ll only do once. Yes we want it to be special – and spectacular would be welcome as well – but when the costs are running to a year’s wage, we look for other options.

Don’t worry – this is not the point where we will immediately begin to advocate a DIY wedding. You don’t have to spend any money at all! You can create everything you want with some innovation and Pinterest boards! This is the common suggestion for wedding money worries, but it has a drawback. For working couples, the idea of being able to spend hours making posies or creating banners just isn’t workable. A wedding is stressful enough without giving you lots of crafting requirements, which may or may not be suited to your abilities.

DIY weddings have their charm, and if it’s feasible, then it’s well worth considering. But for two many couples, it would just be swapping one stress for another.

The other option to consider is substitution. Look for something you want, decide on it and then go for something cheaper with a close-enough look to it. Yet couples don’t like this, for they don’t want to feel they have scrimped on their special day.

So where do you draw the line? You have to make a decision somewhere, and you’ve yet to find the money tree you’re half-hoping exists. The answer is in knowing where to draw the line. So which areas deserve the attention; where can you Splash Out, DIY and Substitute?

Splash Out: Money Spent Wisely

The Venue For The Ceremony

The ceremony is the actual part of the wedding that counts. A lot of couples fall into a trap of thinking the ceremony is only a small part, and the reception is what counts. Then they look back on their photos of the ceremony and are disappointed. While the reception is important, it’s what happens beforehand that really counts. Don’t be tempted into a cheap-and-cheerful ceremony with a lavish reception. At the very least, try and balance them, so they both have their own wonder.

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Flowers and Lighting

The reception venue itself doesn’t need to be spectacular. A simple church hall or a hotel conference room; all you need is a canvas. When you have your blank base, then your money is best spent on the things that will make it wonderful.

Lighting is essential for any occasion, especially if you’re getting married in the months with shorter years. Always make sure you visit your potential reception venue both in the daytime and at night. You may think that floor-to-ceiling windows will allow plenty of light, but what if the day is overcast? If the lighting installed in the venue is insufficient, then use tripods or fairy lights to get it an extra lift. You can also incorporate lighting into the centerpieces.

Flowers are a staple of weddings, and for good reason. They signify flourishing beauty, and it’s an area you will regret skimping on. If you’re tired of the usual boring wedding arrangements, then go for tropical flowers from the likes of With Our Aloha and similar. They give a splash of fresh color and something unique that is all your own.

DIY: The Areas You Can Realistically Do For Yourself

Invitations

The wedding may be considered to begin with the invitation, but it’s a tiny prelude. For most modern couples, Facebook exists. You don’t even need to send save-the-date cards if a simple email will suffice.

It’s less romantic and you won’t have anything to save, but it could save you a fortune. If you’re worried about losing face, then explain when doing your invites that you were hoping to get responses as soon as possible from them.

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The Dress

Yes, the precious dress. While it is a massive part of the wedding and something to be treasured, it is nevertheless an outfit that you are only going to wear once. Designer creations can run into the thousands.

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There is so much mythology around the dress that it has almost taken on a life of its own. We’ve convinced brides that as soon as they find “the one”, it will have a magical and transforming property. It’s a neat bit of marketing; as the cost of dresses get more and more expensive, makers have convinced brides of their essential nature. It’s the kind of PR that millions of items would kill for.

Realistically, the only thing that matters is that you feel good in the dress. If you can look in the mirror and be happy, then nothing else is relevant to the situation. It doesn’t matter what the price tag is or what the label is; it’s how you feel in it.

If you find that you truly love a designer creation, then you can use it as the basis to create your own. Given the costs of some designer items, it can be cheaper to get a custom design by an experienced dressmaker. Plenty will offer the service, and have recommendations on cheaper fabrics that will still give the same overall impact.

 

These are just the beginnings of ideas. There are many other areas that you can apply the same tactics. Always question your motives for wanting something. Do you want something in your wedding because you actually desire it, or because you have been conditioned to think that you want it? If you ask this question often enough, you’ll soon begin to see the answers.

 

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