Brides generally come with an entourage of people in the lead up to the big day. Whether you are newly engaged, in the middle of prepping your wedding, or on the cusp of the biggest day of your life, you have very likely got a flock of people around you at your beck and call. That’s not to say you’ve turned into a demanding Bridezilla, ripping people to shreds with a mere cut of the eye. It’s just that friends, sisters, cousins, aunts, your soon to be mother in law, your mum…all these people PLUS hairdressers and make-up artists will be hovering round you and waiting for instruction. The most important person in that entourage is your mum. She’s been there from your first breath, first steps and first words. It’s only fitting that she should be there by your side to see you take the next set of first steps in your life: as a bride.
All the attention can get a little overwhelming, so take some time to step back and look at the big picture. Look at the women in your life who have come together from two families to make your day beautiful. Think about how you can honour what they’ve done for you. Perhaps your mum has been your automatic wedding planner, helping you write lists and making plans across a calendar so the timing is prompt and efficient. Perhaps she actually paid out for an actual band of Luxury Wedding Planners to take the stress out of your hands for your day. So how can you honour your mum on your wedding day? The day may be about you, but without her you wouldn’t be standing where you are now.
- Get traditional on the day. If there’s a necklace, piece of precious jewellery or even a tradition that your mother hopes you could do for your wedding day, honour it. Wear the jewellery with pride and make it your ‘something borrowed’.
- Get giggling! Prepare your wedding favours together, arrange freshly cut wildflowers together, take a calligraphy class to write place cards together. Any wedding job can have a fun injection just by sitting and being together.
- Let your photographer know that there has to be a few photos of your mum and you together without anyone else in the picture. This woman brought you into the world and taught you how to do everything you know how to do now. Cherish that in print.
- A special gift goes a long way. An embroidered handkerchief with a poem describing your love for your mother is a keepsake gift as well as a place to capture the tears.
Weddings are emotional ceremonies. It’s your day and about you as the bride, but don’t forget where you came from and how you got to where you are now. Even if your relationship isn’t the best friendship in the world, you can still include and be grateful for the mother you have by your side on your wedding day.