Preventing The Lesser-Known (But Still Terrifying) Threat of the Bridemaidzilla

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Your wedding should be, in theory, the happiest day of your life. Well, at least one of the top five. There are the days your kids are born, if you have them. There is your first paycheck. And then there’s the day you realize you paid the store clerk with a single and they gave you change for a ten. Those are all pretty sweet, also.

But I digress. It should be the happiest day of your life, but the thing about a wedding is this. Although it has two leading characters, there is a sizeable supporting cast. While the two of you may give virtuoso performances, there’s always the risk of some scene-stealing further down the card.

It may be for the best of reasons – a giggling fit during the vows, a funny best man speech or the priest catching the bouquet. It may also be because of a spectacular tantrum pulling focus from the happy couple. How do you avoid the lesser-known wedding day disaster – the Bridesmaidzilla?

Picking Your Bridesmaids

As noted before, you do need to be decisive when picking bridesmaids for a wedding. It’s the bridesmaid’s choice in the end, and you have to pick who you’re happy with. That said, if there is a chance of one bridesmaid being miserable because her sister couldn’t be one, think. Does it make a huge difference to have five instead of four?

Picking The Dresses

Outside of the shallower Hollywood rom-coms, you rarely get a group of four friends who are identical in shape and size. Picking the right dresses for your crew, then, can be a tense process. You may have three who are delighted with the cut and the color. There may then be one who looks at what you’ve bought and says “Oh, they’ll look great! I will look like I’ve dressed up for Hallowe’en!”

That’s why sites like alanavivi.com are so useful. You can decide on a color theme, but allow each bridesmaid to choose their cut and style. No need to play the percentages, everyone can look drop dead gorgeous. Just a bit less so than the bride, of course.

Maid Of Honor/Head Bridesmaid Fiascoes

The bridesmaids at any wedding should usually be the best friends of the bride herself. The best, best friend will be the head bridesmaid or maid of honor. However, do you know who your best friend is? Do they? And more to the point, do those who are not your best, best friend know that? This is something that requires clarity early on.

It may be worth making the decision that you won’t be having a maid of honor at all. Should the decision be questioned, explain that they’re all bridesmaids because they mean the world to you. Putting one of them above the others would just be too difficult emotionally on such an important day.

The one caveat to this is if you have been asked to play the part of maid of honor to one of your own party. In that case not returning the favor would look like a snub – and guess where that leads?

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