We’ve all seen them – those YouTube videos that go viral within days of being put up. Where a high school kid has hired a marching band to ask his sweetheart to go to prom with him. How you feel about these videos can tell a lot about you as a person; about half of us will say “Oh, how romantic” while the other half will cringe. Not only has the high school kid been an enormous try-hard, he’s set an unacceptably high bar too.
Those videos also exist for marriage proposals, of course. A level of planning which is somewhere on a par with invading a small island nation goes into asking the question. And sometimes it can look like it’s been done not for the proposer or the proposee, but the hit counter. After all, you can be extravagant with your proposal, but the production values on some of these videos are suspiciously good.
So, what matters when it comes to a marriage proposal? Is it important to make sure the whole thing is Hollywood rom-com perfect? Are stilt-walkers overkill? What is and isn’t indispensable? And are the YouTube heroes actually missing the point?
- Put A Ring On It
There is, officially, nothing about the engagement ring that makes a proposal more binding than it would be without. However, its symbolic value is relevant to the process. You will want to announce the engagement and you will be asked to show a ring as evidence. Marching band or no marching band, viral or no, Tacori engagement rings will make the whole thing real in a visual way.
- One Knee, Or Not One Knee?
Sometimes cliches exist because they’re just right somehow. When someone has got engaged, the question is often “So, did he/she get down on one knee?”. The implication is that somehow it will be disappointing if the proposer has missed this bit out. Again, nothing is any more or less official for this, but the tradition of proposing on bended knee is sweet, costs nothing and feels right.
- The Family’s Blessing
In reality for a marriage proposal to be complete, it needs two people’s assent. The asker and the asked. However, this is the joining of two families and it’s important to get it off on the right foot. If it is likely to be expected of you that you get the blessing of your intended’s parents, then make sure you get their blessing. Getting engaged is such a buzz, but that buzz can be killed quickly by an irate parent asking why they weren’t consulted.
When it really comes down to it, the most important thing is that the proposal reflects the couple getting engaged. Traditions are traditions, but some of us aren’t that traditional. If you have a flair for the dramatic, why not have an extravagant set-up? And at the same time, if you’re simply focused on one another, it’s more than fine to have a simple, quiet proposal. If that’s what reflects you, then that’s what’s right.